CiLup CaK

assalamualaikum to all.

still remember the above game?cilup cak?certain people call it 'main aci sembunyi' or main 'nyorok2'.basically,it is the same thing,regardless of the name given.

why the hell did i mentioned about the above traditional game?no,there is no 'sudden interest' rising in my heart to play the game with my fellow friends here in christchurch.but i'm more interested in the basic principle behind the game, but with different way to play it.

now,what i'm going to say might sounds skeptical or judgmental. this is what i'm afraid of, as i oppose people with judgmental mindset so much,that now i am in doubt that i might be one of them.nauzubillah.this is not my intention, as i keep on pondering and wondering about this thing, so i can say that this is entirely my personal view with no concrete support from any institution at all.

this is indeed 'isu basi', as i found out about this long time ago,but never really expressed my view regarding this matter in public, when i still thinking of myself as a person with no right at all to make an analysis about people's behaviour.i'm not an expert in psychological area, and an absolute ignorant who cant even remember the road to Northland Mall. but when time goes by, this 'isu basi' is still happening among muslims nowadays, hence my thought and feeling just cant be constrained within my small container anymore.

what is exactly this 'isu basi'?this is what i would call, the modern game of cilup cak.popular among muslimah, might happened to certain muslims.

i know that islam teaches us to be an honorable man and woman who grace themselves with dignity and manner.there is no doubt about it,and i have no intention at all to deny it.but do we have to play the game of cilup cak in order to preserve our dignity or to avoid wrongdoing?

lots of muslimah or muslim scholars with promising knowledge about islam like this game so much. where they said that spreading good words among us is necessary, and sharing knowledge is caring for other people, but yet they shy away from each other and not really engaged in the society.

so my point is, how the hell they could carry their oath of dakwah,then?

muslim avoiding muslimah and muslimah avoiding muslim, muslimah run away when bump to muslim on the road, muslim and muslimah keeping distance from each other and comfortably settling down in their own clique or 'comfort zone', what would they achieve from all of these?

what is the meaning of dakwah to them?organizing an usrah among 'adik2 usrah' who are already the 'good,innocent girls' type?

their reason for playing this game is to avoid maksiat. maksiat like 'menghampiri zina' and all.

i know that certain of those people are actually the 'tahfiz', who memorize al-Quran, where they have to be aware of everything and anything, like what they eat, what they see, what they hear and all. i totally respect them, as i know it is not easy to memorize the whole Quran.

but is that means we have to cut all the 'silaturrrahim' between muslim and muslimah?

i'm not trying to encourage muslim and muslimah to blend with each other without any guideline. the rule is simple actually, you just have to restrain yourselves from doing maksiat.that's all. is it necessary to simply run away?

'menghampiri zina' could happen anywhere and everywhere. do u want to stay at home, never come out from the house to avoid the possibility of making sins?

i know,i know.there would be some people saying to me like, 'what are u trying to say then?there is no rule in islam that 100% preventing communication between man and woman.you can still communicate when it comes to academic and stuff like that'

you dont have to tell me that.i'm not that stupid either. my point is, in this case, they play the game without any limit, regardless of what situation or condition. they dont share their knowledge with each other, they dont sit together and discuss about things together. they dont. they just run away. run away from each other.

i really like to see muslim and muslimah scholars who can look at each other faces, without any feeling of fears or 'cair' in their heart. ironically, these group, they are the one who said couple is haram and all, that we have to avoid zina and such, but in reality, they are the one who 'melt mcm butter letak bwh matahari' when they're in front of other opposite sex scholars. now, that's funny.

well, i guess they have their own reason, and i have to admit that 'mengambil langkah berjaga2 utk mengelakkn maksiat' is good, but dont be too extreme that u ended up contributing nothing for the development of islam, regardless in terms of dakwah, academic, technology, social or economy.

wallahualam.