i dont see what anyone can see in anyone else,but you.

assalamualaikum dan salam sejahtera.

wah mcm pembaca berita.

anyway.

ade yg bertnya,kenape aku jarang2 post psl cinta?

erm,ade.rujuk post 'first love'.

tpi aku mmg agak jarang berbicara psl chenta nih.

why eh?

haha.sonang sajo.pasal aku tak becinta la.harharhar.

tpi ade gak yg bertnye...since aku x stuju ngan statement 'kapel itu haram', means sumhow aku membenarkan kapel dlm islam.so ape mksud kapel dlm islam?

hmm....cmni la.aku tak stuju dlm menjatuhkan hukum couple tu haram, tpi tu x bermakna aku stuju dgn konsep 'couple'. suke kalo aku katekan, istilah couple ni x wujud pon dlm islam. tunang ade.

ni cume pendapat personal aku....bukan hujah or hukum or watever eh.

aku actually lebeh prefer konsep 'couple tpi x couple.'

haha.menatang apekah itu.

aku slalu came across forum2 sperti, cmne nak lawan prasaan cinta?cmne nak elakkan diri dri suke kat seseorang?

bagi aku la kan, bwat ape nak elak.kalo dh ske kat somebody tu,biar je la.perasaan suke tu mmg fitrah pon.normal la tuh. nama pon manusia bukannye beskal.

yg penting camne nak kawal.

sebab cinta yg x terkawal ni la yg bwk kpd maksiat, depression, suicide dan kawasan2 yg sewaktu dengannya.

hmm. aku slalu wonder.kenapa bile kite suke kat sesowang, kite mesti kapel ngan die?

kalo x kapel xleh ke?

situation yg typical di kalangan remaja ialah, bile sesowang tuh dh mula berbunga2 hati dan prasaan pd seseoang yg len, maka akan bermula episod2 SMS yg tak putus2, chatting yg x ghenti2, pergayutan yg tak abes2.

bercakap pon mulalah jadik manja semacam, romantik semacam. laki yg x gentleman pon bleh jadik gentleman. pompuan yg x lemah lembut pon leh jadik lemah lembut.

persoalannye kat sini, perlu ke?

kenape bile ade perasaan suke, kite slalu ade tendency ntuk berbalas SMS, walopun psl bende2 paling bongok dlm dunia, sperti, 'awak awak, awak rase, ketam ade telinga tak?'

'saye pun x taww la awak...awak rase??'

aku slalu wonder. kalo x SMS, dudok je senyap2, x bley ke?

maka tak akan timbul perkara2 yg menghampiri zina.

dan kenapa gak kalo kite confess, 'awak...sye suke kat awak...'

'emm...saye pon..'

'awak...jom couple nak?'

err. aku x tau ape ayat yg slalu digunakan ntuk declare. since aku tak penah couple spanjang aku hidup ni. mayb ayat yg lebeh romantik dari contoh di atas. but u get my point.

aku slalu wonder.kenape kene couple? kalo suke, confess, tapi tak couple, bleh x?

lalu aku cube berfikir dri perspective seorang perempuan.

bagi aku, normal kalo seseorang perempuan prefer couple, sebab perempuan suka pd sesuatu yg secure. declare ntuk 'couple' memberikan satu 'sense of secure' bg seseorang pompuan tu. kirenye die rase secure, konpem la mamat ni nak kat aku. dan perempuan gak suke dilayan. so bile dah kapel, slalunye si mamat akan melayan si awek dgn care yg manis lagi romantik. disayangi bagai menatang minyak yg penoh. pompuan mane tak suke. dan pompuan gak suke dengan rase di'protect' dan di'concern' oleh si mamat. err. aku rase kebanyakan pompuan cmtu la.

dri perspective laki lak...hmm x bape sure, since aku bukan laki. tpi aku rase, emm sbb nak rase secure gak kot...in the sense of 'jangan kaco minah ni, ni awek aku.' cmtu la kot lebey kurang. dan laki slalunye rase best kalo dpt protect orang yg die ske. diorg suke kalo pompuan tu jadikan die sumber reference ntuk mintak pendapat, or ape2 pertolongan, hatta tolong tukar mentol lampu yg dah sewel skali pon.aku rase, laki suke dgn rase 'superior' and 'possesive' ni. aku agak la.

so, sumhow, aku mcm nampak logik di sebalik declare nih.

of coz, kite bukan tau kalo kite declare ngn die pon, konpem ke x die akan setia ngan kite. bleh je kalo die nak cari oang len kan, regardless of declare or x. tpi, kawan aku penah cakap, at least bile dh kapel ni, die mcm satu usaha ntuk 'mencegah drpd orang yg disukai dirampas orang len'. 'salah ke kalo brusaha?' camtu le claim kawan aku nih.

erm, aku rase cam agak logik reasoning die.

tpi looking at this thing from religious view, erm...kapel cenderung ke arah maksiat.

agak aa.

rasenye, itu mmg xleh deny kot.

so, ni adelah ape yg aku pikir pasal bende nih.

1) kalo suke kat sesowang, tak perlu gatal2 dok SMS, chatting dan sebagainya. dok umah senyap2.

2) walopun tak SMS bende2 yg tak perlu, rasenye macam ok gak kalo nak confess. err, rasenye bende ni kalo simpan lama2 bley meletop gak nih. so xyah merepek bende2 bodoh, confess jeh.

3) kalo si dia pon suke kat kite, then orite la. tunggu je la satu sama lain. sambil2 tunggu tu, pandai2 la jaga feeling tu, jangan sampai hilang. bile dah sampai masanya, kawin. rasenye tak yah couple pon xpe kan? kalo couple pon sama gak la dgn tunggu. bukannye kalo couple mksudnye kite dah kawen or bleh cepat2 kawen. still kene tunggu mase yg sesuai, srupa mcm yg tak kapel nih. since kapel dan x kapel = tunggu mase yg seswai sblom kawen, bleh je kalo x kapel kan?

4) nak kapel gak?hmm...since aku rase aku bley trima reason nakkan 'sense of secure' tu, hmm aku rase ok je kot. TAPI...kene pikir dulu ape tujuan nak kapel nih. kalo stakat nak sronok2, nak try2, nak bermanja2, nak ber'concern2', baek xyah. aku rase, kalo kapel dgn tujuan nak kawen...emm aku tanak komen dri segi agama, tpi bagi aku, aku rase ok kot....cmne nak tau kite nak kawen ngan die ke x? haa tu kene tanya diri sindri la beb. ko btol2 sayang minah ni tak? ade rase nak kawen ngan die ke tak? ade nampak future ngan mamat ni x? kalo rase cam xleh imagine sume tuh, xyah le cik abang cik adik. buang mase jeh.

dan yg paling important skali, tanya diri: kalo aku couple, bleh tak aku tahan diri drpd bwat bende2 maksiat or yg menjurus ke arah maksiat? ni kene jujur ngan diri sendiri...cuma kite (ngan Tuhan) je yg tau ape yg kite mampu ape yg kite x mampu. kalo rase cm x leh, TAK PAYAH. JANGAN MIMPI. BLEY BRAMBUS.

5) kalo dh declare lak, bley x kalo kite behave seolah2 mcm kite ni still xde ape2, still macam kawan biasa? kirenye, kapel juz sbb nak gtau orang, 'die ni awek/balak aku.jangan kaco.' dah aa. kenape kalo couple je musti nak kuar dating, gi mana2 ke sana ke mari pon nak berdua2, macam dah melekat, musti SMS berjuta2 dlm sehari, musti call berjuta2 dlm sehari? kalo dah couple, KENE ke bwat sume tu? x perlu pon tak pe kan? kalo tak bwat camtu, nampak mcm tak concern ke?kalo ade masalah tu xpe la....tpi agak2 aa, bende yg x perlu xyah aa kot. asal kalo couple, kite slalu expect orang tu concern kat kite lebeh2? bukannye laki or bini ko nak concern lebey2 sgt. kalo couple tapi still rilex dan cool mcm kawan besa, bleh x?

so ni la yg aku maksudkan, couple tapi x couple.

satu bende yg kite kene ingat.

bile kite sayangkan seseorang, jangan sampai kite sayangkan dia lebeh dari kita sayangkan Allah.

rasenye sume orang pon tahu bende nih.

tpi kene pikir balek, ape yg kite bwat, selari tak dengan ape yg kite paham dari konsep ni?

kadang2, kite terlampau sayangkan seseorang tu sampai kita sanggup menimbulkan kemurkaan Tuhan yg mencipta orang yang kita sayang tu.

terlalu cintakan orang sampai kita terlupa nak check, cinta kita pada orang tu lebeh lagi dari cinta kita kat pencipta kita ke? kalo kite cakap, 'of coz aku cinta Tuhan lebeh dari aku cinta manusia', betul ke bile kite pegang tangan die, bile kite sentuh rambut die...tu maksudnye kite lagi cinta Allah dari cinta manusia ke?kalo betol kite cinta Allah, kenapa kite buat bende yg menimbulkan kemurkaan Allah? kenapa kita sanggup bwat macam2 asalkan kita tak sakitkan hati dia, tapi kita terlupa nak fikir, ape yg kite buat tu memurkakan Allah atau tidak?

kadang2, kita terlampau sayangkan seseorang sampai kita sanggup melakukan apa saja untuk orang tu sampaikan kita terlupa pada yg mengurniakan perasaan sayang dalam diri kita tu.

kalo xde Tuhan, orang yg kite sayang tu mungkin tak wujud pon dalam dunia ni. mungkin perasaan sayang kite kat orang tu tak wujud pon dalam hati kita.

orang yg kita sayang sangat2 tu, Allah yg bagi dia nyawa sampai die boleh bercakap dgn kita, senyum kat kita, sampai hari ni.

Allah punya kuasa tu.

Tanpa Allah, semua tu mungkin tak penah terjadi pon.

kemanisan cinta tu mungkin takkan wujud pon.

kalo Allah nak, bile2 masa je orang yg kite sayang sangat2 tu boleh jadi tak bernyawa.bila2 masa je kita boleh kehilangan orang yg kita sayang.

jadi jika kita hargai kemanisan cinta ni, kembalilah pada Dia yg mengurniakan perasaan ni pada kita.

i dont see what anyone can see in anyone else, but you.

cinta tu buta.

tapi jangan butakan hati pada Dia yg mencipta kita.

wallahualam.

p/s: post ini adalah pendapat peribadi si penulis, yang hanya berdasarkan pertimbangan logik tanpa merujuk kepada sebarang dalil atau hujah2 keagamaan. post ini juga langsung tak ada niat untuk mengkondem mana2 couple yg sedang bercouple di luar sana.

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an afternoon with the hijjabed

i like this video very much, that i decided to embed it in this post.

and mmg patot la pon, since my post this time had something to do with hijab.

as i said before, i never had any kind of judgmental mindset towards woman who choose not to wear tudung or hijab.cuz i strongly believe that a woman must not be judge based only on her appearance. simply said, i agree with 'dont judge a book by it's cover.'

i believe that to wear tudung or hijab, one must be truly sincere. not because of environment, because of culture or dah terbiasa pakai. a muslim woman must know her own reason for wearing hijab. or else, when asked why did u wear it, you will go like "errr....emm...."

watching this video reminded me of my friends who said, 'wearing tudung is an option. it depends on oneself.'

i STRONGLY disagree with this statement.

wearing hijab, or precisely, covering our aurat, is NOT AN OPTION.

it is COMPULSORY in islam.

islam never said something like, 'it depends on the women whether they want to wear it or not.it's up to them.'

no.

in the Quran, the ayat said that a woman must lowered her shawl to cover her bosom, except for her mahram.

and the obligation of covering the aurat which is all part of a woman's body besides her face and palms is stated in one of Rasulullah S.A.W. hadith.

so, covering our aurat is not an option. it is a regulation MADE BY ALLAH S.W.T.

Words from ALLAH S.W.T.

so what is our option?

the option is, to obey the rules or not obeying the rules.

to choose to be someone who follows the rules of Allah or breaking it.

that's it.

as i said before, i agree that to wear hijab, one must be sincere. x boleh nak paksa2.

true.

tapi itu tak bermakna kita boleh memutar belitkan hukum agama kita.

kalo masih tak bersedia utk tutup aurat, that's fine. carilah hidayah, brusahalah pelan2. insyaAllah akan sampai masanya.

tapi jangan sesekali buat statement sendiri, suka2 nak ubah hukum dalam islam dengan mengatakan 'tutup aurat ni satu pilihan.'

no my dear sisters. no. it is not an option. it's wajib.

i have lots of girl friends who're not wearing hijab, but from other aspects, they are wayyyyyyyyy better than me. slalu baca Quran, puasa sunat, semayang sunat, mengaji pun sedap. jauh lebeh baek drpd aku yg bongok2 ni.and they know that menutup aurat is wajib, they respect the hukum of Allah and never deny it.

tpi ade jugak sesetengah yg memilih ntuk jadi pengecut.

ape maksudnye pengecut?

bila buat kesalahan, tak nak mengaku kesalahan kita. tpi pandai2 buat undang2 sendiri.

you are brave enough to choose not to wear hijab. you are brave enough to break Allah's rules. but why cant u admit it?

kenapa tak nak mengaku yg kita ni dah melanggar hukum Allah?

mengaku sajalah.

'saya tidak menutup aurat.maka di sini saya sendiri telah memilih untuk melanggar perintah Allah.'

that sounds harsh. but that's the truth.kebenaran itu pahit.

kita sendiri yg memilih utk tak menutup aurat.kita sendiri yg memilih utk melanggar hukum Allah. kenapa takut nak mengaku? mengaku sajalah. berani la bertanggungjawab utk tindakan kita sendiri. kenapa nak putar belitkan hukum agama pula? just utk sedapkan hati sendiri? or sbb nak hilangkan rasa bersalah? or sebab nak cover malu bila orang bukan islam tanya, 'eh u oang islam kan?apsal u tak pakai tudung?apsal oang len pakai?'

jangan jadi pengecut. tolonglah jgn jwb, 'pakai tudung is an option that depends on us.'

tak mengapa jika belum bersedia. tapi tolonglah jadi berani. tolonglah tegakkan kebenaran islam. tolonglah sebarkan perkara yg benar tentang islam. jawablah, 'pakai tudung ni wajib. tapi saya tak pakai sbb saya belum bersedia. saya akui buat masa sekarang saya dah langgar perintah Allah, tpi insyaAllah saya harap saya akn dapat hidayah utk berubah suatu hari nanti.'

kan bagus.

orang pon respek sbb berani akui kesalahan sendiri.

this is a reminder for myself jugak. aku sindri pon maseh tak betul. pakai tudung tpi kadang2 tak tutup dada pon. pakai tudung tpi still suka pakai baju kecik2. so di sini aku mengaku, aku telah menjadi seorang yg melanggar perintah Allah.

aku mengaku itu.

tapi aku nak berubah. AKU NAK SANGAT BERUBAH.

ya Allah, tolonglah bagi aku masa. aku nak berubah.

mudah2an aku masih ada kesempatan dan peluang.

amin.

one more thing.

in this video ade sorang gadis pakai tudung yg hisap rokok.

since this video diamek from youtube, aku noticed ade bnyk komen2 di bawah yg tak puas hati dgn minah yg hisap rokok ni.

kata mereka, 'apa barang. pakai tudung tpi hisap rokok.'

i dont know, but for me, i dont see where is the problem actually.

perempuan pki tudung hisap rokok.

so?

aku tak faham. ape yg salah sgt pasal hisap rokok?

ade sesetengah minah rempit yg pki tudung pendek yg ter'hanging' atas bahu melambai2 ditiup angin, dan dengan slumbernye hisap rokok hembus asap berkepul2.macam bangga je.

aku tak tahu apa dlm fikiran diorg, and kita tak bleh buruk sangka.tak boleh senang2 nak jump to a conclusion.

tpi honestly, kalo aku tengok, aku pon meluat. haha. ingat bagos ke?

but it's different plak kalo perempuan tu hisap rokok bukan dgn tujuan nak berlagak bagos, tapi sebab dia memang hisap rokok.

maybe sebab nak release tension sbb beban kerja yg banyak, or sbb cuba2 dan addicted.

aku tak rasa itu salah.

kenapa bila perempuan hisap rokok, especially pakai tudung, dia akan dilihat dengan pandangan serong sbgi perempuan kurang ajar, tak sopan dan kawasan2 sewaktu dengannya?

ape yg salah sangat dengan hisap rokok?

ape dosa yg die buat?

ape definition kurang ajar atau tak sopan sebenarnya?

kepit rokok kat tangan and hembus asap berkepul2?tu kire kurang ajar ke?tak sopan ke?really?

ade tak die g tampar orang ke, caci maki orang ke, mencarut ke?

kenape asal isap rokok je, trus perception jadi laen?jadi prejudice?

kita tak tahu apa dlm fikiran dia. maybe die juz need a break. that's all.

ape kene mengene pki tudung dgn hisap rokok? hisap rokok dosa ke?

am i too liberal?

entahlah.

i know. memang dri segi adabnye, budaya nye, adat nye, nampak kurang manis. perempuan melayu. pakai tudung pulak tu. isap rokok. tak elok orang pandang.

but still...it has nothing to do with religion right?i mean, it juz the matter of 'perempuan melayu nampak tak manis isap rokok.' tu je.

tak manis.

tapi tak sampai tahap 'kurang ajar', 'tak sopan' or 'rosak akhlak' kan?

kalau lah satu ari nanti aku isap rokok (nauzubillah,tak nak!hehe atas sebab2 kesihatan), agaknye apa perception kawan2 aku pada aku?

adekah diorang instantly akan cakap aku pon pompuan kurang ajar jugak?

regardless of diri aku yg diorang kenal sblom ni?

i wonder...



wallahualam.

p/s: suke gile gadis bertudung biru yg nama julia tu. kalo aku ni laki dah lama aku masok meminang.haha.

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am I rite or am I rite? (ayat mengundang penampar)

i never really realized it before,until recently,when i came across a forum discussing bout 'let's boycott maxis!' that it gave me a pang.

a pang of frustration.

i know, i know. this is again, isu basi.

but there is a 'but' there.

i never knew that there are these much of malay-muslims who hate non-muslim religious practices so much.

it's ridiculous.

they want to boycott maxis because the owner of maxis using the profit to construct temple, patung buddha and gereja.

first thing first. is that really TRUE?

where is the proof?

or is it just another rubbish of forwarded message?

if it is indeed the truth, what's wrong with that?

i dont get it.

they regard the construction of massive church and temple as some kind of 'attack' towards islam.

for me,it doesnt makes sense at all.

one of the readers said something like, 'pembinaan gereja boleh melahirkan lebih banyak orang islam yg murtad.'

really?

i think, not all, but most of muslims who convert to christianity made the decision merely based on their desire to escape from strict regulations in islam, merely to seek freedom that allow them to do whatever they like.

i dont really think that they would actually seek for the 'truth' from church, or going to church so that they would be preach by the priest there. nor they would be a 'good christian' after they had converted, go to church every sunday and all. i dont think so.

if they said that the church would encourage the christians in their effort to preach or 'memurtadkan' muslims, again i think it makes no sense at all. the 'dakyah' from christians has nothing to do with the construction of church. IT HAPPENS, regardless they have lots of church or no church at all.

come on. ananda krishnan got the money fair and square. he never force us to buy those maxis top-up, rite?he got the profit from his own effort. he can do whatever he likes with the money. who are we to stop him or say that his action is wrong and such?

after all, he is a buddhist (actually, i'm not so sure). so what's so wrong if he want to enlarge the 'patung buddha' at batu caves?what d'ya expect then? constructing more masjid kristal and taman tamadun islam?

in oversea especially, lots of interfaith dialogs had been held between christians and muslims, and most of the dialogs were held in church. when the time for prayer comes, muslims are allowed to perform the prayer inside the church itself.

it is not allowed for non-muslims to perform their religious practices inside masjid, and that is understandable enough. so we have to give them some space, so they could perform their prayer according to their religion in peace. if we hate the construction of church/temple so much, what do we expect then?forcing them to pray at home only?

because of this forum, i've been labeled as 'terlalu open-minded' and 'belum BENAR2 FAHAM ISLAM'. i was said as 'menyokong orang kafir.'

i'm speechless.

muslims always stressing on the importance of dakwah, but yet they hate those people that should be 'didakwah'. what's the meaning of dakwah to them? dakwah among muslims only?

i dont know.

agama tak pernah mengecewakan manusia, tapi manusia selalu mengecewakan agama.

dan manusia selalu mengecewakan manusia juga.

in the end...

am i rite or am i rite?

wallahualam

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